QUESTIONS ABOUT COUPLES RETREATS

All retreats include two 75-90 minute sessions (one before the retreat and one after) as well as four 3-hour segments (usually completed in two days).  Pre and post-retreat sessions are held via Skype or FaceTime.  Retreats are held in a beautiful private home in Portland, Oregon, a log cabin in Zig Zag, Oregon, or in a beachfront cottage in Manzanita, Oregon.

Some of my retreat participants choose to continue with ongoing coaching, in which we create a strategic plan for each unique relationship's growth goals.  Often we meet every other week for 90-minutes as a couple with brief (30-45 min) calls for individual clients on the off weeks.  Most of these clients continue for four to six months post-retreat.  Some have stayed with me for years.

How long do you meet with people?

Most relationship retreat clients meet with me for one weekend.  Many of the clients who meet with me for retreats only return for a renewal retreat on an annual basis (many as part of their anniversary celebrations) for relationship maintenance.

Still others choose to stay on for monthly maintenance work as a means to prolong and integrate their retreat learning.  I'm happy to support you in sustainable change.

Where is your office/Where will we meet?

All my initial free consultations happen on the phone.  

Retreats are held at a beautiful private residence in SW Portland, Oregon, at a beachfront cottage in Manzanita, Oregon, or in the Cascade Mountains at a log cabin in Zig Zag, Oregon.

Is lodging included?

Nope.  But once you've registered,  I'll send you a follow up message to connect you to great housing options closeby.

Is childcare included?

Nope.  Each family has unique needs and so will your children.  I'd rather you select your own childcare provider.

Are meals included?

Some retreats include meals.  If meals are included you will receive a questionnaire so I can work to meet your specific dietary needs.

Are there any kinds of couples you won't work with?

I love love in all it's creative forms.  I've worked with all sorts of non-traditional couples and am confident I can support you.  If you have more specific questions please schedule a consultation I'm happy to talk them through with you.

I will not be complicit in hate or shaming of one retreat participant by another.  This includes bias and negativity based on race, class, sexual orientation, sexual preference, gender identity, ability, nationality, size, or age.  If your bias makes challenges other participants emotional safety you will be asked to leave without refund.

Finally, I will not work with couples who are actively violent or struggling with substance abuse/addiction.  I'd rather refer you to treatment with another provider for those issues first and then help you reflect and renew your connection.

How does confidentiality work?

Everything you say to me in session is kept confidential on my end forever.  There are only a few exceptions to this:

  • If you are abusing someone in your care, or your partner, or yourself I'll likely have to report your abuses
  • If you are planning to kill yourself or another person I will report your plans
  • If you contact me using the internet, social media, email, or a smart phone I have no control over the confidentiality of the information you share (but google, facebook, etc will) 
  • I am currently receiving supervision for both a Sex Counselor and a Master Coach credential and will talk with my supervisor about my client work- but I will remove identifying information in these conversations.

Our retreat agreement says we can take our lessons away and share them, but not the names of identifying information related to any stories shared.