commitment counseling

Congratulations! You’ve met someone you want to spend a lifetime with!

Now, how do you make that beautiful life vision a reality?

I've helped thousands of couples create intentional, evolving, long-lasting relationships.  Are you next?

Look, It's very easy to lose track of ourselves amid the inspiration, aspiration, and dedication of a successful career path. 

And when we lose ourselves we simply cannot authentically connect to another.

I've seen the impact many years of day-to-day grind can have on intimate relationships first hand. 

Over the last ten years I've created a process using clinical expertise, scientific research in relationships, and professional experience to identify your strengths as well as your areas for growth in relationship through relationship coaching. 

In premarital counseling (or pre-commitment if marriage isn’t your thing) we’ll start by identifying your shared values and your unique relationship’s strengths to draw from as we shape a shared vision.

After our introduction and visioning session we’ll meet for four sessions to prepare you with the necessary skills to build a loving connected lifetime partnership. I’ve broken down the four most common areas of struggle so we can proactively address them and build supports for your relationship.

These four areas are:

 

In this process we’ll draw from the best relationship expertise around the world to share tools and resources to support your growth. As a coach, I'm all about creating awareness to help you move forward. 

We build upon your strengths to create a clear vision and a strategic plan of how you can reach your goals together.  

Let me help you cultivate the skills you need to support an intentional and deeply connected life together.


Now I trust we’ll end up fine. Even through really big hurts, I know we have a strong enough base to make it out fine. We’ll be fine.
— Damien & Rachel, Portland, OR

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If you're brewing something exciting together...

... starting a family

... getting hitched

... building a business

… buying a house

… moving far away

… planning a ceremony

Let's lay a solid foundation for your dreams. 

This work is the first step to building something beautiful.

 

What’s included in the premarital counseling and pre-commitment coaching package?

  • A full relationship strengths assessment to identify your unique relationship attributes for growth.

  • A complete visioning session based on your shared values to create a life plan.

  • Four coaching sessions outlining the four most common areas of struggle for long-term partnerships- so you don’t have to struggle.

  • Four complete guides to take with you into your bright future- to keep these tools fresh.

  • Access to my entire relationship tool library (1000+ pages) for life.

  • Invitations to quarterly and annual tune-up sessions and discounted programs to keep your relationship strong for years to come.

 
 
I feel a million times better than when we started working together. We’ve got this.
— Mariah & Jeremy, Chicago, Illinois

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We can’t move forward together if we don’t know where we’re going. I support couples in shaping a shared vision based in their unique personal values so you can move forward as a solid team as well as encourage each other’s individual dreams.

As we begin our work I’ll have you complete a formal relationship strengths assessment process to identify your unique personal and shared values, strengths, and goals. You can download a demo page of the assessment here to start your own reflective conversation.

We’ll use that information to create a meaningful shared vision of the future you can build upon with enthusiasm. 

In our very first session Gina saw something in us I hadn’t realized in seven years together. That shifted everything.
— Sarah & Tara, Portland, OR
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My dream for you is a lifetime of fulfilling emotional and physical intimacy. I want you experiencing joy, desire, fascination, and pleasure for the rest of your life.  

But look, very few of us are taught the physical basics of meaningful intimacy- let alone the emotional ones or the skills you need to communicate about either of them.

Most of us need better information and useful skills in this area if we’re going to have satisfying physical intimacy at all (let alone forever). And nearly all of us need to brush up on the communication basics to build emotionally intimate and safe deeply connected partnerships.

So let’s talk about sex, intimacy, and your lifelong vision for both- shall we?

I thought sex between us was good before. I didn’t know we needed help with that but... it’s even better now.
— Laura & Staci, Madison, WI
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Gina makes the most complex parts of our relationship problems really easy to understand. I didn’t know I needed to learn so much about relationships.
I walked away seeing things from a new perspective.
— Dan & Megan, Buffalo, New York
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We fight less now. And when we do it’s way better. We get over it quicker and I don’t always worry she’s leaving me.
— Elsa & Erikah, Portland, OR
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I’m really not a big therapy person, but Gina made it easy to talk to her without judging us and her help really got us thinking bigger about what we need in life and from each other.
I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I’m glad we went through it.
— Adam & Cassandra, Beaverton, OR

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM OUR WORK:

WHAT I DO

  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow

  • Bring a decade of experience helping hundreds of incredible people deeply connect to themselves and the people they love

  • Help you listen and communicate effectively, end repetitive argument cycles, and let go of baggage

  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast sexuality knowledge to fan flames of passion between you

  • Identify ways to manage intense emotions

  • Rebuild trust and renew intimacy

  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful

  • Deeply care about your personal growth and well-being and at the same time hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself

WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action. Be forewarned: I've been described as "direct and not-coddling."

  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already WAY too much of that in the world)

  • Get stagnant. I will check in to see if this is working- focusing and refocusing on action and change in your life

  • Collude with your inner critics to let you stay small

  • Treat you like you're broken (because you're not)

  • Assume your experience is the same as mine or anyone else's

  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)