commitment counseling

Congratulations! You’ve met someone you want to spend a lifetime with!

Now, how do you make that beautiful life vision a reality?

I've helped thousands of couples create intentional, evolving, long-lasting relationships.  Are you next?

Look, It's very easy to lose track of ourselves amid the inspiration, aspiration, and dedication of a successful career path. 

And when we lose ourselves we simply cannot authentically connect to another.

I've seen the impact many years of day-to-day grind can have on intimate relationships first hand. 

Over the last ten years I've created a process using clinical expertise, scientific research in relationships, and professional experience to identify your strengths as well as your areas for growth in relationship through relationship coaching. 

In premarital counseling (or pre-commitment if marriage isn’t your thing) we’ll start by identifying your shared values and your unique relationship’s strengths to draw from as we shape a shared vision.

After our introduction and visioning session we’ll meet for four sessions to prepare you with the necessary skills to build a loving connected lifetime partnership. I’ve broken down the four most common areas of struggle so we can proactively address them and build supports for your relationship.

These four areas are:

 

In this process we’ll draw from the best relationship expertise around the world to share tools and resources to support your growth. As a coach, I'm all about creating awareness to help you move forward. 

We build upon your strengths to create a clear vision and a strategic plan of how you can reach your goals together.  

Let me help you cultivate the skills you need to support an intentional and deeply connected life together.


Now I trust we’ll end up fine. Even through really big hurts, I know we have a strong enough base to make it out fine. We’ll be fine.
— Damien & Rachel, Portland, OR

PREMARITAL WORKBOOK

This process includes the 50-page Premarital Workbook filled with self reflection prompts, conversation guides, and action steps you can take to build a solid foundation for your future.

I’m sharing a sample from the workbook here so you can try it out!

If you’re not sure about including coaching sessions as part of your process you can purchase the workbook on it’s own here.


Working with Gina helped us stay grounded through the process and all the distraction as we planned our wedding.
She helped us plan for ways to stay connected and made a plan for us to savor the day well after everything was over.
— Danny & Sofie, Milwaukee, WI

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If you're brewing something exciting together...

... starting a family

... getting hitched

... building a business

… buying a house

… moving far away

… planning a ceremony

Let's lay a solid foundation for your dreams. 

This work is the first step to building something beautiful.

 

What’s included in the premarital counseling and pre-commitment coaching package?

YOUR SIX-PART PREMARITAL COACHING PROCESS:

 

WHAT’S INCLUDED IN THIS PROCESS:

  • A complete relationship strengths assessment to identify the strengths you can draw upon moving forward, and the areas you hope to grow

  • A couples visioning session grounded in personal integrity to clarify your path forward together

  • Four self-reflection guides based on highly respected relationship research to help you stay true to yourself while growing a life together

  • Four couples conversation guides designed around the most common areas of challenge lifetime partnerships face to help you stay together no matter what life throws your way

  • The 50+ page Premarital Workbook for you to keep and revisit whenever you need a tune-up.

  • Complete access to my 1000+ page relationship resource library

  • Reserved seating in my Monthly Relationship Masterclass to help you maintain connection over time

  • Invitations to annual and quarterly events to tune-up your relationship at a client-only discount rate

 
 
I feel a million times better than when we started working together. We’ve got this.
— Mariah & Jeremy, Chicago, Illinois

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We can’t move forward together if we don’t know where we’re going. I support couples in shaping a shared vision based in their unique personal values so you can move forward as a solid team as well as encourage each other’s individual dreams.

As we begin our work I’ll have you complete a formal relationship strengths assessment process to identify your unique personal and shared values, strengths, and goals. You can download a demo page of the assessment here to start your own reflective conversation.

We’ll use that information to create a meaningful shared vision of the future you can build upon with enthusiasm. 

In our very first session Gina saw something in us I hadn’t realized in seven years together. That shifted everything.
— Sarah & Tara, Portland, OR
 
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This visioning process is grounded in your relationship strengths assessment and the values you hold individually and as a couple.

Without our values as a foundation, it’s impossible to create an intentional sustainable vision.

I developed two tools for couples to guide an intentional conversation about personal and shared values. Check out sample pages below, or enter your email (scroll down) to get a free copy of both.

 
Premarital Counseling | Values in Relationships
Premarital Counseling | Values in Relationships
 

For a free sample of this process enter your email below and I’ll send you both the Personal Integrity Workbook and the Integrity-Fueled Relationships Workbook to support your conversation about your shared core values.

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passion after marriage

My dream for you is a lifetime of fulfilling emotional and physical intimacy. I want you experiencing joy, desire, fascination, and pleasure for the rest of your life.  

But look, very few of us are taught the physical basics of meaningful intimacy- let alone the emotional ones or the skills you need to communicate about either of them.

Most of us need better information and useful skills in this area if we’re going to have satisfying physical intimacy at all (let alone forever). And nearly all of us need to brush up on the communication basics to build emotionally intimate and safe deeply connected partnerships.

So let’s talk about sex, intimacy, and your lifelong vision for both- shall we?

I thought sex between us was good before. I didn’t know we needed help with that but... it’s even better now.
— Laura & Staci, Madison, WI
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Gina makes the most complex parts of our relationship problems really easy to understand. I didn’t know I needed to learn so much about relationships.
I walked away seeing things from a new perspective.
— Dan & Megan, Buffalo, New York
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We fight less now. And when we do it’s way better. We get over it quicker and I don’t always worry she’s leaving me.
— Elsa & Erikah, Portland, OR
trust in relationships

Trust is the cornerstone of a solid relationship. Without it we struggle to connect, commit, or create.

Every couple I work with struggles with trust from time to time. Not due to the larger betrayals we often look for, but because trust is both built and eroded in the smallest of moments in relationships.

I’ve created a toolset to help you start out with a strong trustworthy foundation as you begin a new chapter of life. In it we’ll also focus on the skills you need to repair and reinforce trust over time if you want to stay together.

Read more about my work specifically on trust here.

 
I’m really not a big therapy person, but Gina made it easy to talk to her without judging us and her help really got us thinking bigger about what we need in life and from each other.
I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I’m glad we went through it.
— Adam & Cassandra, Beaverton, OR
 

WHAT TO EXPECT FROM OUR WORK:

WHAT I DO

  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow

  • Bring a decade of experience helping hundreds of incredible people deeply connect to themselves and the people they love

  • Help you listen and communicate effectively, end repetitive argument cycles, and let go of baggage

  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast sexuality knowledge to fan flames of passion between you

  • Identify ways to manage intense emotions

  • Rebuild trust and renew intimacy

  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful

  • Deeply care about your personal growth and well-being and at the same time hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself

WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action. Be forewarned: I've been described as "direct and not-coddling."

  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already WAY too much of that in the world)

  • Get stagnant. I will check in to see if this is working- focusing and refocusing on action and change in your life

  • Collude with your inner critics to let you stay small

  • Treat you like you're broken (because you're not)

  • Assume your experience is the same as mine or anyone else's

  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)