RECOMMENDED BOOKS ON LASTING DESIRE IN RELATIONSHIPS

 

MATING IN CAPTIVITY - ESTHER PEREL

If you're facing desire fatigue (the idea that we lose desire the longer we're in a relationship) this is the book you need to help you understand why desire wanes- and what needs to shift to regain it.  You can catch a little snippet of the ideas in this book in her TED Talk or order a copy here.

 

PASSIONATE MARRIAGE - DAVID SCHNARCH

This is one of the best-loved sex therapy books among relationship professionals, so if you're willing to read a VERY long book (or just jump to sections that speak to you) this is a great book to help you shift decreasing or differing desire patterns between you. Order it here.

 

THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE - MICHELLE WEINER DAVIS

If you're looking to rekindle things and jump-start with some action this book has helped many couples.  Like Passionate marriage, it is largely heterosexual and monogamy-centered, but does provide some helpful information for couples willing to try anything to bring the fire back.  Check it out here.

COME AS YOU ARE - EMILY NAGOSKI

Most of us don’t have a great background in sex education, partly because the information most of us learned is WAY outdated- especially when it comes to arousal, intimacy and desire. This book is a perfect gateway to being a better lover through better sexual understanding. You can check out the author’s incredible TED Talk here if you want to get a taste before ordering the book.

BETTER SEX THROUGH MINDFULNESS - LORI BROTTO

Let me be completely honest here, I’m only halfway through this one and I’ve already been recommending it like MAD. It’s that good. Anyone partnered with a woman or identifying as one needs to read this. Again, it’s that good.