MINDSET FOR SUCCESSFUL COUPLES WORK
I ask all clients who start this work to consider their mindset as a critical piece in the success of our coaching work. Please review the learning agreements below as you prepare for relationship coaching.
I (coaching client) acknowledge that:
in the past some of my choices have negatively impacted those around me, including those I love, and myself,
there is a possibility I will repeat these past choices as patterns in the future,
change and growth are not linear processes,
I want to improve quality of life and reduce stress for myself and those I care for by changing my relationship patterns.
In order to deepen my awareness to grow and learn in this process I will:
give myself space to have fun, experiment, create and change my mind,
stay open to feedback and willing to learn from my partner, and others I care for,
offer consensual compassionate feedback to my partner and/or other participants,
offer feedback to my facilitator/coach if the process needs adjustment for my learning style,
examine my inner resistance and limiting beliefs, actions, and reactions and
ask for support, advice, encouragement, empathy, resources, and tools when I need,
pace myself as I work through tools and resources,
commit to completing planned personal work between meetings and after the event.
In order to create meaningful lasting change in my relationship patterns, I will:
pay attention to the choices I make and claim responsibility for them,
seek to understand the consequences of my choices (including those I didn’t intend),
not use the actions of others as excuses for my choices,
do all I can to repair negative impact done by my chosen actions or omissions,
explore the patterns of behavior that lead to my actions and omissions,
address and change unhealthy, out-of-balance, and/or harmful patterns,
practice self-compassion, giving myself permission to make mistakes as I shape new patterns,
extend this practice of compassion to my partner and understand they will make mistakes as they learn, grow, and shape new patterns.