JEALOUSY, INSECURITY, & ENVY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Jealousy, insecurity and envy aren’t problems in relationships all on their own. The feelings themselves are powerful information sources we can learn from - they can help us deepen relationships with the people we love when used wisely.

The damaging part of jealous emotions stem from the reactive behaviors we employ when insecurity sets in. Here are a few behaviors to look out for:

  • Being isolated from friendships due to a partner’s insecurity

  • Assuming or suspecting the worst in situations with other people

  • Cutting you off from life-giving activities, hobbies, or interests

  • Checking each other’s phones, social media, email, or locations instead of trusting

  • Making controlling demands on your behavior

  • Constant comparison and judgment of other people or seeing them as threats

  • Not getting enough alone time- always having to be with each other or in touch

Lots of us (myself included) get stuck in jealous thoughts from time to time- but you’re not doomed to continue them forever. Let me help you break the cycle.

 
“I’m really not a big therapy person, but Gina made it easy to talk to her without judging us and her help really got us thinking bigger about what we need in life and from each other.”
— Adam & Cassandra, Beaverton, OR
 

JEALOUSY MANAGEMENT COURSE

JEALOUSY COURSE

DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH JEALOUSY?

This self-guided course is designed to talk you through the tools you need to manage reactive emotions that come up in relationships with confidence and care.

Work through it at your own pace from the comfort of your own home.

This course includes:

  • 1-hour Video Lecture

  • 37-page Self-Reflection Guide & Action Plan

  • Jealousy Journal and Self-Care Action Plan 

UNRAVELING JEALOUSY

It can feel impossible to overcome jealousy, but with help it is possible. Here are the things we work on most to help you feel in control (instead of letting jealousy control you) :

  • Take ownership of jealousy and your behaviors your own

  • Clarify the support and boundaries you need - and learn to ask for them

  • Are in touch with and in control of your body’s reactions to jealousy

  • Have proactive supports in place to help you mitigate and minimize jealousy

  • Allow jealousy to flow through you without harming yourself, overwhelming you , or damaging your relationship

If these cound far-fetched with you don’t worry- there are plenty of ways to change the way you respond to jealousy. I can help you. Just call me! 

 
 
I didn’t know how we would make it through after [my wife] caught me cheating. We were so stuck when we first met Gina and I think we both thought it was over.
It took some time, but it feels like we’re friends again.
— Rob & Lindsey, Camas, WA

WHAT TO EXPECT WORKING WITH ME ...

WHAT I DO

  • Use a strengths-based approach to help you grow

  • Bring a decade of experience helping hundreds of incredible people deeply connect to themselves and the people they love

  • Help you listen and communicate effectively, end repetitive argument cycles, and let go of baggage

  • Use a sex-positive framework and vast sexuality knowledge to fan flames of passion between you

  • Identify ways to manage intense emotions

  • Rebuild trust and renew intimacy

  • Keep momentum and hope alive - even if it's hard for you to feel hopeful

  • Deeply care about your personal growth and well-being and at the same time hold you accountable to the goals you set for yourself

WHAT I DON'T DO

  • Sit and nod - instead, we'll take action. Be forewarned: I've been described as "direct and not-coddling."

  • Add shame or judgment to your experience (there's already WAY too much of that in the world)

  • Get stagnant. I will check in to see if this is working- focusing and refocusing on action and change in your life

  • Collude with your inner critics to let you stay small

  • Treat you like you're broken (because you're not)

  • Assume your experience is the same as mine or anyone else's

  • Pathologize you (I don't treat mental illness, so you won't receive a diagnosis, assessment or treatment for mental health conditions or substance use)