JEALOUSY, INSECURITY, & ENVY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Jealousy, insecurity and envy aren’t problems in relationships all on their own. The feelings themselves are powerful information sources we can learn from - they can help us deepen relationships with the people we love when used wisely.

The damaging part of jealous emotions stem from the reactive behaviors we employ when insecurity sets in. Here are a few behaviors to look out for:

  • Being isolated from friendships due to a partner’s insecurity

  • Assuming or suspecting the worst in situations with other people

  • Cutting you off from life-giving activities, hobbies, or interests

  • Checking each other’s phones, social media, email, or locations instead of trusting

  • Making controlling demands on your behavior

  • Constant comparison and judgment of other people or seeing them as threats

  • Not getting enough alone time- always having to be with each other or in touch

Lots of us (myself included) get stuck in jealous thoughts from time to time- but you’re not doomed to continue them forever. Let me help you break the cycle.

 
“I’m really not a big therapy person, but Gina made it easy to talk to her without judging us and her help really got us thinking bigger about what we need in life and from each other.”
— Adam & Cassandra, Beaverton, OR