Couples who stay curious about each other, engaged in learning about their partners, open to growing together fare better long-term.
They're able to adapt to changes and navigate bumps in the road with resilience. And they maintain passion and intimacy by fueling a sense of discovery and space for fascination, mystery, and surprise.
Every week I send out questions to deepen your partnership to help you foster and nourish the intimacy you share with those most important to you. You can sign up to receive those messages right here.
And you can read some of my previous conversation starter posts here.
I hope these help you connect in meaningful ways with someone you love.
Here are a few questions to ask your sweetie this week:
How do you like to make up after we fight?
How do you wish we handled our conflicts differently?
What did your parents teach you about conflict in relationships?
How do you like to cool off when you're angry?
Has your anger ever been a problem in your past relationships?
Whats the worst thing about fighting in this relationship?
Whats the most effective way for me to bring concerns to your attention?
Quick tips for these questions:
Be present. Set aside some fully-present distraction-free time to ask and respond to these with someone you love. Put down your phone, walk away from any screens, and give your partner your full presence.
Stay open to possibility. Even if you think you know your partner's responses listen to them without assumption so they have room to surprise you.
Show up. Offer responses in complete sentences and challenge yourself to elaborate. This isn't about being brief- it's about growing more intimate connection. Add specifics and details to offer more of yourself to your partner.
Really engage. Ask your partner follow up questions. Part of this process is about engaging with your partner in meaningful ways. Asking more follow up questions will show you care and broaden the conversation.
Connect with others. Collect all the questions and take them on a date night, dinner party, road trips, and campfires to inspire more meaningful conversation with your community.