Staying in love long-term takes intentional action every day. It doesn't have to take a lot of work, but by keeping these things in mind you'll be a dream partner to your sweetie.
Strong relationships are based on trust and accountability. Being a great partner means owning when you've hurt someone, taking accountability, and moving forward. Try apologizing with more clarity next time (here are a few tips).
Breathe Before Responding
Most conflicts could be resolved if we just slowed down and thought things through before reacting. Take a breath before you respond from now moving forward and notice what shifts between you.
Take Care of Yourself
If you aren't taking care of yourself you can't properly take care of your love. Period. Prioritize your self-care as a means to nourish your relationship.
Make Their Day
Stop and ask yourself, what one thing might brighten my sweetie's day- and then do it. Maybe it's a love note, a clean house, or a special song no matter what it is we all like to enjoy a special treat once in a while. Surprise them with something new.
Not all communication is verbal- having strong kinesthetic communication strengthens relationships too. Ask your partner what their favorite kind of affection is, and then follow up by doing it.
Think Kind Thoughts
Resentment likes to build up even without our partners' help. Notice when you start dwelling on negative thoughts, criticisms, or complaints you have about your partner and force yourself to think nice thoughts for each negative thought you're holding.
Consider their POV
When you're in conflict make sure you take your partner's feelings and ideas into consideration. It's going to be very difficult to move forward until you do.
Often as a relationship grows we forget to tell our partner the things we love about them- specifically, in person, and with words. Take the five seconds to nourish your relationship right now- just tell them why you love them.
Share Gratitude Openly
Strong couples share genuine appreciation and gratitude regularly. Start a daily gratitude practice and share something you're grateful for to help you stay close.
I hope these suggestions help you create a partnership you love. Here's a version you can print for your fridge if you want a little hanging reminder to help you get into strong practices that nurture your relationship.
Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC has helped thousands of couples review their growth together, and renew their connection moving forward.
For nearly 15 years she's specialized in strengths-focused, positive psychology-based relationship advice and coaching to nurture lasting joy and and resilience in her client's relationships.
She will help you:
- develop a shared vision and goals- and create actionable steps to move in that direction
- overcome outdated patterns and establish new intentional, healthy ones
- strengthen trust or repair it after infidelity or dishonesty
- connect in meaningful ways during and well after life transitions
- design rituals of connection that will keep you close for many years
- break stale or unhealthy communication patterns and learn new skills
Contact her for a free consultation to see if working with her is right for you.